Rage Club is a radically safe learning environment for unleashing the archetypal force of Stellated Anger.
The purpose of Rage Club is to grow up in relation to the feeling and emotion of Anger so you can consciously and productively use Conscious Anger's energy and information as an Adult in your daily life without being possessed or overwhelmed by it.
Rage Club is both a Thoughtware Upgrade and Healing Space with regards to Anger.
As one of the Rage Club Spaceholder said "Rage Club is a birthing process for the adult person."
Rage Club spaceholding is that particular spaceholding where you Take A Stand for others to grow up with regards to their Anger, becoming a new and different person, someone who consciously uses Anger and relates to Conscious Anger as an Archetypal force of nature.
A particular kind of spaceholding is needed for those people who are courageous enough to learn something that most people in their life have never even heard of, namely, how to own and use their Conscious Rage. People who come to Rage Club are often Edgeworkers. Rage Club is about empowering Edgeworkers.
The Rage Club Spaceholder must have a foot in each world:
This kind of Double Spaceholding - or 'bridge spaceholding' - can best be learn by practicing it in the presence of Rage Club Spaceholder Trainer who can already do this and indicate to you what is actually going on and why they do (or do not do...) the things they do (or do not do...).
During Rage Club Spaceholder Training, you learn to:
How to Set Context - in particular the Extraordinary Context - of Rage Club with clarity, power and lightness
How to face Gremlin resistance
How to distinguish when Emotional Healing Processes (EHP) are needed, and how to arrange for the Team to do them for each other
How to spontaneously create exercises and experiments for the matrix of your participants
How to Create Possibility for someone dealing with their modern-culture life while also dealing with being in Rage Club
How to match the exercises you give to the next steps of each participants
How to 'roll the energy' in the space from one exercise to the next
How to build a Team among the participants from the very first session
How to announce and invite people into your Rage Club (meaning to Build Your Circle)
And more, depending on your Questions
A Rage Club Spaceholder Training is a space where you can realize that you are not alone on this journey of supporting other to upgrade their thoughtware to create a better future for humanity. You cannot hold the context of Rage Club alone.
In the Rage Club Spaceholder Training you may find a new home.
STARR - Rage Club Spaceholder Training & (short) History of Rage Club
4 to 6 weeks
In English, with Anne-Chloé Destremau
6 weeks - one 2h30 session/week + ongoing experiments and collaboration on the Telegram group
From October 30 - December 4, 2022: 6 Sundays from 16-18:30pm Berlin time.
In Polish with Gabriela Klara Kowalska
6 weeks - one 2h30 session/week + ongoing experiments and collaboration on the Telegram group
TBA soon (6 Sept. 2022)
spaceholders: Gabriela Klara Kowalska
In German with Lisa Ommert, Christine Duerschner, Markus Bork
6 weeks - one 2h30 session/week + ongoing experiments and collaboration on the Telegram group
TBA soon: February / March 2023
spaceholders: Lisa Ommert, Christine Duerschner, Markus Bork
Being able to follow your processes has given me my anger back at the same time. I am so pissed that I have allowed myself to "sleep" over and over again instead of following my sword of clarity! I am so angry that I have so often hidden myself to avoid appearing "aggressive" and instead I have tried to conform to my clients and partners in order to be loved. This upsets me so much that I am able to write.
I underestimated this training. I was too ignorant. And I'm not going to give up. Even if I have to repeat this training several times - I accept that!
Thank you for holding the mirror in front of my face.
Rage Club Spaceholder Training participants, Aug-Sept. 2021
I feel so ecstatic with being in this team. Really supporting each others growth and being on this path together.
Realizing that I don't have to do this "all alone".
Rage Club Spaceholder Training participants, Aug-Sept. 2021
Thank you all for your support I really felt it. I feel so much gratitude knowing that I am not alone and that's just a story I create to play low drama. Yesterday I really felt connected to all of you and it gave me so much power to go through it was such a beautiful feeling really! There was so much trust and love and confidence. Thank you for being energetically available. I feel a lot of love for this team. thank you all!
Rage Club Spaceholder Training participants, Aug-Sept. 2021
from their experience in holding space for Rage Club
Dear team,
Last Sunday I was at Waking Life festival in Portugal, just after the Heal From School Lab. I had been invited to deliver a Rage Club.
40 people showed up or they were already there napping after the last workshop. The people were tired.
I started with context and low level anger. Then pushing shoulders.
When I took some questions/sharings, one person said they were scared to go higher than 20-30% anger in that position. I mentioned there were other positions that would make it safe for her to experience anger even up to 100% without hurting herself or/and others, and described the position. A few people asked if they could do or see that, so I arranged for a demonstration.
A man volunteered and we did a floor rage process with 5 men holding him. He did 30 seconds and had no words, we paused, there was feedback and coaching and he went again and now there were some words and a very clear NO! I asked him who was he talking to and eventually he said hi mother. I held space for him to find a real boundary, and we did standing rage with two men holding him and a woman chosen by him to be his mother.
He went up to 70% and spoke in his native tongue, greek. At the end of the process we clapped and I looked at my watch and a whole 1h10 had passed in my 1h30 session.
The woman was crying. She shared that her son says exactly the same thing. They shared a hug and were crying profusely. I look around the room and about 15 people are crying. They had not left. I took sharings of what was alive in the people and offered a distinction, or a listening space, or a possible practice.
The space ended with me landing the distinction Feelings vs. Emotions and what an Emotional Healing Process is.
I never had that many people asking me for a postcard after a workshop! I am almost all out!
Rage Club Spaceholder Training participants, Aug-Sept. 2021
Hello Team,
I was doing a Rage and Rage-Yoga Festival tour in East Germany during the month of July. One of my golds is that one participant asked me after the Rage space "Are you delivering Rage Clubs in Dresden?" And I told her that if she found 5 people then I would come. Two weeks later she wrote me "I got 5 women, when can you come?". So we're now together planning a women rage day in Dresden, which will most likely be followed up by a Women rage Club there. I'm right now creating the flyer and will send it to you for feedback and coaching.
I'm thrilled by this work and what it changes in people!
Rage Club Spaceholder
I feel joy because today while holding space I experientially experienced a - very obvious - distinction for the first time: my job as a rage club spaceholder IS to make people uncomfortable (in an empowering way). During a 'saying no' practice, a client wasn't receiving any beeps because she was really "good" at landing her NO's. After giving her a couple of GO's, my fear was telling me I'm not doing my job correctly. I realized that my job is not to say Bravo, my job is to find the next scary step for her to take, because this is the value she is investing in. I proposed that she interrupts the roleplayer with her NOs instead of letting him finish his sentences. She couldn't do it, she lost her voice, her center, her clarity, and we worked on it! It was "uncomfortable" and she thanked me for it. Amazing! I love making people uncomfortable when it's not for my gremlin's ugly purposes, it's extremely High Level Fun! Especially when people appreciate it. Of course it will be different when they hate me for it, but that's a story for another time.
This stuff can't be planned, or imagined, or anything really, there is so much learning that happens from doing.
I said this last time, but I get 3 times and then it's rescuing: if you're delaying your spaceholding, dooooo iiiiiitttttt, you'll never be ready!
Rage Club Spaceholder
I want to share that today I held a space for an anger experiment and it was so powerful. They didn't have any maps. I talked a little bit about anger, feelings and emotions and then we went to the: Ha! Yes! No! exercise, but I made a shift on it: I've started guiding them to connect with their anger, all the times that they didn't say what they want or couldn't say yes or no to something. Then, when we went to the Ha! YES! and No! It was like an explosion.
So, afterwards I opened the space for them to bring words though their anger about what they are. And it was beautiful. Full of power. They brought their conscious anger as they could feel it in their bodys.
It was amazing!
I'm bringing these anger experiments to the trainings that I offer and it's always so valuable.
Rage Club Spaceholder
Dear Team,
I want to share another legend and inspiration from my last Rage Club for women.
It was a offline space with 6 women. Two of them were in a strong resistance having a story „Anger is not good“, „Anger is aggression“.
In the middle of the initiation the part of their boxes cracked!
The joy of the new map of anger was so huge that the sound of joy rings in my ears to this day, the joy of the new discovery in her life!
At the beginning of the training, these women could not even shout the word “YES”!
Rage Club Spaceholder
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In English & German
Brianne Vaillancourt
When I heard the word “rage”, I used to immediately think “violence”.
Aggression. Destruction. Out of control. Unreasonable. Not okay.
....
Anne-Chloé Destremau
That day, nothing was working my way. After a few hours of growing rage, I called up a friend. Weirdly enough, he was experiencing the same situation! After a solid fifteen minutes of serious complaining on both side, I asked him “What do you do with the anger when nothing seems to be working?”. He said: “I use my anger to do the next thing”.
Cloé Crettaz
Taking our own emotions seriously is not only an act of self-respect, but also a political one. It is about accepting what arises as part of us, learning to give it its rightful place back, to potentialize its information and energy into creativity, inspiration and transformation.
Beata Piskaldo
Rage was almost totally displaced from my life for almost all of my life. And for sure the conscious and ‘not-gremlin’ one. As I was growing up in Poland, this bizarre country in the middle of Europe in ’90s, I didn’t know anybody who could have taught me how to feel, express and use my anger in a safe way.
Jennifer Van Damme
Have you ever felt stuck because you had the feeling that you had to do something in a way someone else wanted you to?
Oliver Arnold
Why do you need anger to create fulfilling relationships? You might want say that anger destroys relationships and I would agree: too much unconscious anger can do that. And in the same way, too little conscious anger can keep you from really being in relationship.
Kian Nasir
My earliest memories about anger go back to when I was around 4 years old. My mother and my father are fighting with each other. I do not understand why they hurt each other with words. I want them to stop. Why do people fight like this? Shortly after they separated.
Ingrid Schmithusen
La plupart du temps, j’essaie d’ignorer ou d’engourdir ma colère et de me convaincre que cela fonctionne. À la place, je veux plaire tout le monde et, en cachette, j’accumule en moi des non-dits sans être consciente. Oui, je le vois : je me mens concernant ma relation avec la colère. Alors, pourquoi je me suis inscrite à ce cours, maudite marde ?
Markus Bork
Ich benutze Wut um diesen Artikel zu schreiben. Ich benutze Wut um mir die Nase zu putzen. Ich benutze Wut wenn ich etwas ändern will, in Beziehungen für Klarheit sorge und den Redefluss von Klienten in meinen Sitzungen unterbreche, um mit ihnen einen Schritt weiter zu kommen.
Anne-Chloé Destremau & Team
ABOUT LIFE IN SLAVERY AND LONGING FOR FREEDOM
I would prefer that everything I write here would be not true.
I’d rather be able to open a Facebook chart and pretend that it’s all cool and helping others pretend it’s cool.
(And although this does not exclude the wonderfulness of life) it is not cool...
& 12 other tales of Reclaiming Authority
Anne-Chloé Destremau
On the fifth day of a temporary magic school, it became obvious that the soil in the magicians and sourceresses had been prepared enough for their Dragons to sprout and flame-up the world with a certain kind of poetry. I was one of the Dragon Speakers. Here what I as my Dragon said.
Martina Swoboda
Ich komme aus einem Umfeld in dem mir beigebracht wurde, dass Gefühle nicht OK sind. Es super ist, wenn man gefühlsmäßig taub ist. Eine hohe Taubheitsschwelle hat. Das heißt, wenn mich jemand angreift, verletzt oder beleidigt so zu tun als würde es mich nicht berühren.
Aurora Gyorffy
When I tell my friends that I’m doing Anger Practice or Rage Club Spaceholder training, a part of me cringes and shrinks. Not wanting to toot my own horn, draw attention to myself or make people uncomfortable. Rage Club? That sounds intriguing comes the response at times.
Hannah Fatima
Have you ever been so filled with rage that you don't know how you could ever express its fullness? You feel the rage bubbling up into all aspects of your physicality; shaking, clenching teeth, fists, and stamping feet? Do you wonder how you could be filled with so much emotion – questioning; 'what's wrong with me!?'
Julia Foch
Der Entschluss mich nun tatsächlich hinzusetzen und diesen Artikel zu schreiben fiel in dem Moment, in dem ich wütend wurde. In dem ich die Wut in mir aufsteigen spürte. Wut darüber, dass ich immer noch nicht schreibe.
Nayade Temes
Have you ever ask yourself why when you are pissed of at someone or something, you can feel such intense, violent energy that fills all your body ? Have you ever wonder what to do with all that? I can guess you have even thought that you had lost your mind. In any case, I would sincerely tell you that you are not alone on this, and you are not crazy at all.
Anne-Chloé Destremau
And if something has already been done, why would you want to do the exact same thing again? Will that fulfil the deepest longings that are throbbing away in your heart and soul? Will that feed you the way you have been dreaming of for so long?
Clinton Callahan
If the idea resonates that you may have a mission, a task, a service, a contribution to make to the evolution of humanity, which was self-assigned before you were born, specifically trained-for
through significant, perhaps even brutal childhood experiences, then this experiment
may open new doors for you.
Hints and distinctions about holding space for someone who is learning how to feel for the first time in their life.
Learning how to feel is not about learning how to scream or shout. It is about upgrading your nervous system to be able to experience feelings consciously. The distinctions provided in the STARR build matrix inside of your client's Being for them to be able to upgrade their nervous system. I cannot stress enough how providing distinctions/ clarity, building the context for the New Map of Feeling is as - if not more - important than your client's ability to make big sound.
It is very different if you say "I feel 80% angry because you did not wash your dishes" than if you say "I feel 2% angry that you did not wash the dishes". Being clear about the intensity of your Feelings and Emotions is an crucial element in your communication.
During this STARR, along with Anne-Chloé, calibrate your Feelings Detector.
How to join a Rage Club Spaceholder Training?
Rage Club Spaceholder is an Archearchy Specialty in Possibilitator Training
At this time, Spaceholders for the Rage Club Spaceholder Specialty are Natalia Grzyb and Jesse Eustis.
Below are current research notes from further discoveries in the field.
Your 5 bodies change when you discover new possibilities while experimenting!
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Each Rage Club Spaceholder Training is different. Each carries foundamental distinctions and practices to deepen, sharpen and enliven your Rage Club spaceholding.
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Publish your article online. Then please send a copy to Anne-Chloé Destremau.
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Prepare by writing out 3 potential Dangerous Questions in your Beep! Book. Then during the meeting, choose and ask one of these, or one that is closer to the heart of the matter in real time during your Rage Club.